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pourmousavi M, Diba Vajari M, Monadi M. Living Experience Related to Renunciation of Separation among Women Applying for Divorce. refahj. 2020; 20 (76) :131-165
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Introducing: social developments at the global level, faced with changes, challenges, issues, and needs. Family has become increasingly threatened by various causes and factors. When family functions, such as the biological, social, cognitive, and emotional functions of one after the other, its members gradually lose the sense of satisfaction, and the gradual decrease in the social satisfaction of the family makes a social rupture and ultimately divorce. In Iran, the first nine months of 1395 in the entire country 135667 divorces were registered, and the ratio of marriage to divorce was 3/9. In the face of all 3/9 marriages, one divorce has been recorded. But according to the country’s official statistics that the divorce rate increases, a percentage of divorce applicants get rejected despite demanding dowry, alimony, and legal actions in courts.
Method: The present study is qualitative, and it is defined as “any kind of research whose findings are not achieved through statistical processes and with quantitative purposes”. The data of this type of research are collected through observation, interviews or oral interaction, focusing on the meanings and interpretations of the participants. Data collection tool in this research has been semi - structured interview. Semi - structured interviews are defined as “an interview with more construction and more restricted topics in which specific questions are asked from all respondents”. The research technique is semi-structured interview and designed by the researcher. The criterion for purposive sampling is selection of people who can provide sufficient information to answer the research questions. After widespread calls in the region, the researcher managed to find 12 people for the interview. The evaluation and validity of the data were used to assess the validity of the data from the evaluation methods and an there was also an external observer, the interviews were sent to the interviewees and the confirmation of sentences and interviews were taken from them. The external observer also supervised all the steps from the interview to coding; the data collection process and analysis were verified. Content analysis was used to find the data. In general, content analysis can be defined as “is a research technique for inferring valid data from the data on their context in meaning. Content analysis the technical analysis on the content of research that includes specialized methods in processing scientific data.
Findings: In this study, three questions were answered.
How did women understand how it was when they asked for divorce to withdraw from the separation? It has to be noted that out of 12 participating women who have left home during the divorce process and have lived in their home. How was the majority of interviewees responded to the question of “ how did you decide when you decided not to divorce? They said they were not satisfied with the situation and were due to make a big decision to continue or stop their lives. The participants expressed their utmost concern by being pressed by the main family and the nostalgia of their children.
What are the reasons for the withdrawal of women seeking divorce? the child, all codes non - coding (due to not having children) mentioned this. lack of support, participants in the context of the sponsor of the two perspectives pointed out that one was financially difficult, and that made people unable to divorce. Another, because the family did not support in the decision, returned. again, each participant in the study appealed to a reason for divorce and asked for the same reasons. The women have continued their lives with their husbands for wanting to change their status. The fear of divorce and the bad look at the divorced woman is a process by which social groups and certain individuals, such as divorced women and head of household, are excluded from society and marginalized, so they can hardly find opportunities to improve their condition. This rejection induces emotion. she gave up her request. Fear of loneliness is one of the impulses of man to marry alone, when it comes to an individual by isolation. Four women gave up divorce for that purpose. Using counsel and consulting sessions, advice from well - informed and informed individuals can always help people in the paths of life, and four women returned to their lives for attending the counseling sessions and using the lawyer. The dependent personality refers to people who need an extreme need to deal with, and this needs to take a cohesive and cohesive behavior and fear separation. 3 women gave up their appeal because of the dependent personality (mother and wife) and a non - rational fear of leaving and hurting others.
How does women look at their current common life (after withdrawing)? the way women live in the interview were also studied, and they were asked about their opinions and views about their lives. These themes expressed satisfaction and hope for life, dissatisfaction and hope of life.
Discussion: Women’s perception has been a long - time and painful process since leaving. home to return home. The only thing to say is that if people decide to divorce, they must also measure every aspect of it so they can make a good decision in this regard as research suggests that 90 % of women will regret their decision after divorce. It is possible to say that the existence of a child plays an important role in the lack of divorce. A lack of support was the factors that weakened the decision of women to divorce. The sponsor means that the person is neither financially secure nor that his main family supports him on the way. The role of opportunity in reducing divorce was also examined, which in this way women want to give their wives the latest opportunity because they feel less remorse or less remorse for the future so that the children or others would not have their chance to give them their chance. The fear of divorce and the bad view of society can be discouraging because society rejects those who are special and leave the normal state, causing fear and concern for women, and fear is a deterrent. Fear of loneliness the participants during the interview, and the fear of being left forever bothered them. It can be said that loneliness is a negative and subjective experience characterized by two characteristics of social and social isolation. The use of consulting sessions and taking advantage of the lawyer in a plan that has been applied for several years has been applied by the judiciary after holding a few special - ground consultation sessions or from outside - court consultations can be used to improve the status of life. Individuals with a self - dependent personality are dependent on others for decision - making as well as important decisions for others and cannot do without others. Even when their opinion differs from others ‘ belief, they sometimes accept the words of others only because they reject them.
 Looking at the current life in two aspects of satisfaction and hope after withdrawing from the separation has been investigated. Each of the examples of this research has continued with a different look at their lives. The definition women expressed in the satisfaction of life was the slowing of the conflict, improving the relationship with the wife, giving money to women, the requested changes, and so on. The hope of this kind was defined: a bright future with success that gave some success to their children’s lives. Three of the ladies were satisfied with their lives and hoped for the future. Five women were dissatisfied with their lives, but they hoped to improve their lives. The four ladies had neither hope nor contentment for the future of their lives. One woman asked for a divorce and that it was a sign of a lack of satisfaction and a lack of hope. Due to the abundance of self - determination, the lives of those people are still fragile and you will need help.
Table (1) Perceived categories women of divorce applicants
FEATURES    theme    main theme
Aggression, Anger, Depression, Crying, Discomfort, Worry, Anger, Anxiety, Anger, Fear, Hate, Shout, Sadness    Negative Emotions    Negative perception

Doubt, hesitation, emptiness, lack of support, ambiguous future, uncertainty, expectation, loneliness, black feelings of doubt    Doubt    
Automated Thoughts, False Thoughts, Review, Unconscious Thoughts, Remembrance Thinking Memories    Thinking    Logical perception

Take action, make decisions, solve problems, ask for help, consult, talk about    Reform    

Table (2) Reasons to cancel the separation with abundance
FEATURES    theme    main theme
The existence of a child, the age of the child, their number    child    Canceling Separation
Poverty, lack of financial support, lack of emotional support    No sponsor    
Wait, thinking about the future    The fear of divorce    
Fear of divorce, community labeling, lack of bright career prospects, family and...    Chance again    
To be alone    Fear of loneliness    
Enjoy counseling and counseling, speaking with a knowledgeable and experienced person    Use counseling    
Clinging to people with power, inability to do activities without others    Dependent personality    

Table (3) Present life participant in interviews
Life satisfaction and hope    Lack of satisfaction and frustration in life
    Lack of satisfaction and hope for life    Lack of satisfaction and lack of hope for life
3    5    4

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Received: 2019/05/11 | Accepted: 2020/06/23 | Published: 2020/10/6

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